It hurts to see so many people who feel their lives were wasted on meaningless tasks, jobs they never enjoyed, and dreams that never went fulfilled… They listened to their parents, their teachers, their friends or relatives on how to live their own lives instead of following their heart’s desire. They were pretending to be someone else in their own body, causing them a lifetime of internal conflicts that never went resolved. Then, when it was all said and done, they came to the realization that their life was one big mistake. Don’t let that be you.
“Be what you are, not what you see.”
6 Life Regrets Of The Dying You Must Avoid
1 | “I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”
Turning your life around requires you to change your daily habits, one step at a time. Get rid of that auto-pilot mentality, see yourself taking decisive action, and form new routines that break your old ones. Have a constant and ever-evolving mentality for change, because change will be the only thing that will ever remain constant. And once you understand that the power is from within, you won’t ever want to give that power away. That power belongs solely to you, but the moment you decide to listen to others on what you want to do with your life, you chip away at your own soul each time.
“What this power is, I cannot say. All I know is that it exists.” - Alexander Graham Bell
2 | “I wish I didn’t work so hard”
It’s tough to rule this out for any person, but if you want to retire early, you must plan your own future and be your own boss. Long gone are the days where you’d work at a company for 30-40 years and retire with a gold watch. Those gold watch days are long gone. But if you want to work less, you must work smart. Develop a system and build upon it every single day. Be ever-evolving, and you will always beat the guy who never changes in his ways.
“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.” - Winston Churchill
3 | “I wish I pursued my dreams and goals”
I wouldn’t be here today writing this article and following my passion for entrepreneurship, if it weren’t for the big decision I made 1 year ago. I had to give up a big part of my life at the time, in order to gain something greater. If you fear change, loss, or failure, you may never find the right road for you. But to make a drastic change in your life, you should set micro-goals with the intent to achieve them without fail. Whether it be running a mile everyday, or doing the dishes after dinner, create small goals and achieve them diligently. Doing so will build your confidence, and it will ultimately help you to make that big step to drastically shift your life in the right direction.
“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” - Walt Disney
4 | “I wish I knew a lot earlier that happiness was always a choice”
It doesn’t take anything or anyone to be happy, but yourself. If you can cause your own pain, misery, and sadness, you sure as hell can create your own happiness, don’t you think? Make it a habit to keep negativity out of your life, even if that means losing friends or changing your environment. The negativity of others will spread to you like a virus, and before you know it, you will be just like them. Happiness does not require a lot of money, wealth, or fame. Happiness, you already have.
“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” - Abraham Lincoln
5 | “I wish I had made more time for my friends”
Friends help you escape reality by forgetting about the things that stress you the most. In some ways, your friends are an extension of who you are, so choose them wisely! A balanced life of work and pleasure leads to a healthy life, so don’t neglect your friends. Always keep in touch. You never know when you’ll be needing them for something in the near future!
“Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.” - Albert Camus
6 | “I wish I stopped worrying about what others thought about me so much”
When you truly find yourself, you won’t care what others think of you because none of that matters to you. However, there’s a difference between saying you don’t care what others think of you, and truly not caring what others think of you. Here’s the difference: if you’re thinking about it, you do care. People who are themselves, like Mark Zuckerberg, never cared about how people would perceive him. He might have had a negative reputation during his school years, but that was the least of his worries; and he was right.
“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” - John Wooden
To prevent these 6 life regrets of the dying, you only need to do one thing, which is to have no regrets! Most people will regret things they haven’t done, but hardly ever will someone regret something they’ve done. The former lasts a lifetime, whereas the latter lasts but temporary.
“And when we finally got down to something which the individual says he really wants to do, I will say to him, “You do that.” and uh, forget the money… Because if you say that getting money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living that is to go on doing things you don’t like doing. Which is stupid…! Better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing, than a long life spent in a miserable way. And after all, if you do really like what you’re doing, it doesn’t matter what it is. You can eventually become a master of it.” ~ Alan Watts