Often times you might ask yourself whether or not you will look back in your life and had wished you’d done things differently. Or maybe the idea of having any life regrets scares you. Well, that’s a good thing because the thought alone is a great motivator for you to start trying harder. We don’t know when we will die, or else life would be much more simple. The idea that we are all eventually going to die is the greatest gift of living because if we were immortal, there would be no hurries of accomplishing any of our goals. This world would be filled with lazy humans, and technology as we know it today would probably not exist for another thousand years.
We hurry to finish that work, complete the essay, hand in those resumes, or make it in time for the big corporate meeting because all of those have one thing in common. They have a deadline. The same principle applies to us. We all have a deadline soon and it will surely happen.. But instead of realizing that deadline in the near future, save yourself the suffering and get it over with RIGHT NOW. Do not wait until the deadline is close by, or else you’ll miss life’s greatest pleasures. So here it is, the top 6 life regrets of the dying and how you can best prevent them.
Top 6 Life Regrets Of The Dying
1 | “I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”
The first and most common life regrets of the dying is.. “Not living the life that I wanted to live but instead the life that my parents wanted of me.” If you feel like you are not where you want to be in life and all that is a result of people who have influenced you thus far, you are wrong. Almost every decision you made and every choice you formed has been a result of everything that has happened in your life. Not studying hard enough in school, not pursuing your dreams because of thoughts that your parents might not approve, and not being able to have the courage to express your true feelings are all things that are within your internal locus of control.
Life is just a series of choices that will lead you from one road to another. Do not simply be a sheep in a herd following the crowd but instead walk the roads and paths that make regret just a word in the dictionary.
2 | “I wish I didn’t work so hard”
Today’s economy has been getting worse and worse. The days of retiring at old age and living peacefully is nearly long gone. Depending on where you live in this world, you might be forced to work for the rest of your life just to get by. I was always a firm believer in that there are two ways of working. 1) You can work hard or.. 2) You can work smart. And both are equally as difficult but the latter is the road least taken but best rewarded. Simply make a decision now to work smarter and work less in the future.
3 | “I wish I pursued my dreams and goals”
This is very similar to the first common regret of the dying but different in that there are more factors to the concept of pursuing your dreams and goals. You may have the freedom to pursue your dreams and goals but it means absolutely nothing without the confidence to go through with it. Being scared to follow your dreams is one of the greatest misfortunes in life because you will never truly know how great you could have become. We are all created equal, with our own individual strengths and weaknesses. Find your strengths and nurture them because that will build the foundation of your confidence to pursue your destiny.
4 | “I wish I knew a lot earlier that happiness was always a choice”
Each one of you is really the great one. But the mistake that most people make is they put it off and think that they are a long time on the way getting this thing; this greatness.
All things in life require some form of suffering. Suffering that should be done early in your life so that later you won’t have come to the realization that happiness was simply a choice all along. Those who suffer later in life will have their happiness postponed because they were afraid, here and now to see it. If you have the nerve, you’d see it right away.
5 | “I wish I had made more time for my friends”
Life is meant to be lived and shared with friends. And with the right friends, they can help you become a better person. A famous quote by Jim Rohn says that “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” And in many ways that is true. If you surround yourself with bad influences, you are more likely to do bad things. But if you are surrounded with successful individuals, you will be led in a more successful path.
But in the end, friends are friends and you should never turn your back on them. They are a great form of happiness that money can’t buy. Have great friends that can make the best come out of you.
6 | “I wish I stopped worrying about what others thought about me so much”
The faster you realize that no one really cares about you other than your close family and friends, the sooner you can do the things that truly make you happy. You are already naked, there is no point in concealing your true self. And by constantly worrying about what others think of you, you lose time and energy in what really matters. And plus, it’s rare to see the same person more than once unless you either live really close to them or go to the same places they do. But even then, it is still uncommon.
You are 1 in 7 billion, and the faster you realize that, the more happy and free you will be… “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” – Dr-Seuss.
The 6 life regrets of the dying are sad to hear but you can prevent them by taking the right steps today. Free yourself of all fears, of all expectation and do what you were destined to do. Follow your dreams and goals & become a truly happy person surrounded by great friends who make your life better.
Realize that you will have to suffer at one point in your life and that it is up to you to choose when you will pay your dues. And realize that you don’t have to work so much, you simply have to work smarter. So start living your life free of regrets.
“And when we finally got down to something which the individual says he really wants to do, I will say to him, “You do that.” and uh, forget the money… Because if you say that getting money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living that is to go on doing things you don’t like doing. Which is stupid…! Better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing, than a long life spent in a miserable way. And after all, if you do really like what you’re doing, it doesn’t matter what it is. You can eventually become a master of it.” ~ Alan Watts